Why I Stopped Expecting Too Much from People - Journey (Part 1/3)

One Swing Philosophy – A Journey of Healing (Part 1/3)

For many years, I slowly gave up expecting too much from people.

When I was younger, I trusted people easily. I believed that kindness would naturally be returned.

But life taught me something different.

Like many people, I experienced disappointment. Sometimes I was appreciated only when I was the one giving help, support, or time. After several painful experiences, I stopped believing that I would find many truly good relationships.

So I made a different choice.

I stopped looking for people.

Instead, I spent more time with myself, my two dogs, and golf.

At first, I thought I was simply protecting myself.

Now I realize I was also healing.

Golf quietly taught me an important lesson.

When I try too hard to force a perfect shot, my swing loses its rhythm.

The harder I try, the worse my swing becomes.

Relationships can be similar.

When we feel lonely, we naturally want someone to fill that empty space.

But I don't think loneliness is the best time to choose important people in our lives.

A lonely heart often cannot see clearly.

So I stopped searching.

Instead, I decided to become someone who could stand comfortably on my own.

Looking back, I don't regret that decision.

Sometimes, being alone is not loneliness.

Sometimes, it is the beginning of healing.

I didn't know it then, but that quiet season was preparing me for something better.

Perhaps life wasn't taking people away from me.

Perhaps life was teaching me how to recognize the right ones.

To be continued...

KR Summary

한때 저는 사람을 쉽게 믿는 사람이었습니다.

하지만 여러 번의 실망과 상처를 겪으며 사람에 대한 기대를 조금씩 내려놓게 되었습니다.

누군가를 찾기보다 나 자신, 두 마리의 강아지, 그리고 골프에 집중하며 혼자 있는 시간을 보냈습니다.

그때는 단지 나를 보호하고 있다고 생각했지만, 지금 돌아보니 그 시간은 나를 치유하는 시간이었습니다.

골프에서 스윙을 억지로 만들려고 하면 리듬을 잃듯이, 외로움 때문에 사람을 찾으려 하면 올바른 판단을 하기 어려울 수도 있습니다.

때로는 혼자 있는 시간이 외로움이 아니라, 더 건강한 나를 준비하는 시간이 될 수 있습니다.

혼자 설 수 있을 때, 비로소 좋은 사람을 만날 준비도 시작된다고 생각합니다.

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