How Will I Respond to Other People’s Moves? - 타인의 시도에 나의 반응은?
Sometimes, people test me. “Let me see how she reacts.” “Maybe this is okay.” “Maybe she will say yes.” Sometimes, their actions can feel rude or uncomfortable. But I have started to think about this differently. It is their freedom to try. It is my freedom to respond. I cannot control what another person does. I can only control what I do next. So, if someone suddenly asks me to play golf, I do not always say yes right away. I can simply say, “Let me check my schedule.” Then I take a few minutes and think about it. Do I really want to go? Do I have the time? Does it fit my day? The same thing applies when someone invites me to a gathering. Being invited does not mean that I have to go. And when someone who has not contacted me for a very long time suddenly reaches out, I can decide how I want to respond. I do not have to be angry. I do not have to judge them. And I do not have to say yes just because they asked. I can simply make my own decision. Before 60, I often did things because ...